• Coda bókin
• CoDA – Vinnubók
• Co-Dependents Anonymous
• The Daily Meditation book
• The Affirmation Booklet
• CoDA Blue Book – Pocket Edition

• Growing Up In CoDA
• Coda Prayers
• Twelve Step and Twelve Tradition Workbook
• Joy in the Journey – litabók
• Serenity Bookmarks

• Guli
• Græni
• Krosstal

• Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meetings Matter
• Carrying the Message
• Common Threads of Codependency
• Experiences with Crosstalk
• Making Choices
• Newcomers Handbook

• Peeling the Onion
• Sponsorship – What’s in it for Me
• The Twelve Piece Relationship Toolkit
• Tools for Recovery
• Traditionally Speaking
• Twelve Step Handbook

• Am I codependant
• Attending meetings
• Communication & Recovery
• Establishing boundaries in recovery
• Using the Twelve Traditions

• Reparenting Our Inner Child
• Welcome to Co-Dependents Anonymous
• What is CoDA?
• Your First Meeting

CoDA bókin er seld á flestum CoDA fundum og er grundvallarrit samtakanna. Bókin fjallar um meðvirkni og bata frá meðvirkni, þjónustu, spurningar og svör.

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Vinnubók til aðstoðar í spora- og erfðavenjuvinnu

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“Co-Dependents Anonymous is a worldwide Fellowship of men and women who come together to solve their common and individual problems of codependence. The need for such a program as CoDA was so great that in the first six years of CoDA’s existence the program grew to more than 4’000 meetings worldwide, with a membership of approximately 100’000.

In the infancy of Co-Dependents Anonymous, the Board of Trustees turned to the founders to draft the first version of a book to reflect the experience, strength, and hope of the Fellowship. This version began the process leading to the book you’re reading today. This book, Co-Dependents Anonymous, is the culmination of many years of work involving members of several Boards of Trustees and others in the Fellowship. This work is not a product of any one time or place. It is an ongoing evolutionary process, produced by countless meetings of group conscience.

We offer this book, not only as a practical guide, but as a symbol of our own collective journey. It represents a cross section of our experiences, both joyous and painful, and it stands as a beacon to the codependent who still suffers. There is hope for changed relationships with a Higher Power, ourselves, and others. We can move out our our current, perhaps lifelong pain and into a new way of living. We now invite all who suffer from codependence to read our book in the hope that each of you may find what many of us have found – the hope and freedom of recovery.”

Þessi bók innheldur daglega CoDA- hugleiðingu fyrir alla daga ársins. Hugleiðingarnar eru skrifaðar af meðvirkum fyrir meðvirka.

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”This booklet is a compilation of affirmations submitted by codependents for codependents. Affirmations are short positive statements, expressed in the present, that reinforce some part of our recovery. They are a method of focusing on the changes we want to make in our lives.“

Úrdráttur úr “The Affirmations Booklet”, bls 1.

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“In-depth readings on recovery Steps and Traditions, our Fellowship and common questions, without the personal stories.”

“This is a collection of Prayers from Conference Approved Literature”

“Takes the reader through the Steps & Traditions with a brief explanation followed by a series of questions. For individual or group study. Now spiral bound.”

“The 83 pages in this coloring book have been designed as a creative outlet for codependents on their path to recovery. There are 36 original Illustrates on high-quality paper inspired by the CoDA 12 Step, 12 Traditions, and 12 Promises. In addition to the wonderful illustrations, there are beautifully designed spaces for you to capture your thoughts and ideas.”

“Growing Up in CoDA offers a way of understanding our codependency by exploring, accepting, and healing our childhood injuries and losses.

By applying the tools of our program, with a new emphasis on inner child work and reparenting, we can grow up emotionally and spiritually, become who we were intended to be, have honest and fulfilling relationships, and live more joyful lives. Includes exercises in each chapter and emotional growth stories from our Fellowship. “

“Set of four bookmarks including CoDA’s Steps, Traditions, Promises.”

Handhægur bæklingur með:

• 12 Spor CoDA
• 12 Erfðavenjur CoDA
• 12 Loforð CoDA
• Atferlismynstur og einkenni meðvirkni
• Æðruleysisbænin
• Þriðjasporsbænin

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Hvað er Trúnaðarmaður?

Tilgangur með að fá sér trúnaðarmann eða trúnaðarkonu er að þróa samband við sér reyndari CoDA-félaga.

Trúnaðarmaður eða trúnaðarkona er fús að deila reynslu sinni, styrk og vonum til að styðja við bataferlið þitt, sem og sitt.

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“Hugsanlega er venjan að forðast krosstal eitt það erfiðasta fyrir mörg okkar að skilja og fara eftir á CoDA-fundum. CoDA-samtökin viðurkenna almennt að mikilvægt sé að forðast krosstal en ekki ríkir ávallt einhugur um hvað krosstal er í raun og hvernig best sé að takast á við það þegar
krosstal á sér stað. Samtökin gefa þennan bækling út til að varpa ljósi á hugtakið krosstal, þar á meðal hvernig mismunandi hópar velja að skilgreina og takast á við það.”

Krosstal – Inngangur bls.7

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”Healthy meetings are an integral part of CoDA Fellowship, providing us with a safe space to learn about recovery. Recovery does not happen in isolation. CoDA’s Tradition One states, “Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon CoDA unity.”

A CoDA meeting is comprised of a group of people who come together around their shared desire for healthy and loving relationships. The group uses the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Co-Dependents Anonymous as the basis for working toward recovery. It is a place to find sponsorship and fellowship as well as the sharing of experience, strength, and hope. A strong sense of acceptance and community makes a meeting attractive to both the newcomer and old-timer.

The sense of community and belonging, a gift of our program, begins a the group level. A CoDA meeting is more than a place to tell our troubles. It is a place to identify with people life ourselves and to interact with people focused on similar goals – to develop and maintain healthy and loving relationships.“

Úrdráttur úr “Building CoDA Community: Healthy Meeting Matter”, bls. 1.

”In this pamphlet, we will reflect on some of the concerns we all share in our recovery from codependence; the dilemma of when to say “no” or when and how to accept a responsibility or to make a commitment. We will also offer some solutions and methods suggested by many of our fellow members from a variety of CoDA groups.

Perhaps the first solution is to ask the Higher Power of our own understanding for guidance so that the way we approach service is right for each of us as individuals. If we choose to view being of service in a new way, we might see it as an opportunity to transform our thinking about helping, about giving, and about doing.“

Úrdráttur úr “Carrying the Message – Living the Twelfth Step”, bls.1.

”As codependents we come in different flavors, from martyr to victim, from rebel to doormat. We may have different backgrounds and different issues, but we come to recognize certain traits in ourselves and in each other. Our purpose in this piece of literature is to examine these traits, these common threads of thought and behavior that are interwoven into this complex tapestry we call codependency.

We choose not to define codependency for two reasons. It is not our intent to decide whether or not anyone else is codependent. Our Third Tradition reminds us that the only requirement for membership in CoDA is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. We don’t even have to decide that we are codependent before joining Co-Dependents Anonymous. We do not presume to hold the ultimate answer to the codependency question. We simply share our own experience, strength, and hope. Each reader is free to choose what sounds relevant and to discard what does not.“

Úrdráttur úr “Common Threads of Codependency”, bls. 3.

”Perhaps one of the most difficult things for many of us to understand and practice in a CoDA meeting is the custom of “no crosstalk. It is generally accepted throughout the Fellowship that no crosstalk is important, but there is less consensus on exactly what constitues crosstalk and how best to deal with it when it occurs. The Fellowship offers this booklet in order to share many experiences about crosstalk including how different groups choose to define and deal with it.

Tradition Four reminds us: “Each group should remain autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or CoDA as a whole.” Our policy of no crosstalk is important for CoDA as a whole; however, each group is free to choose how to implement this principle for itself. CoDA’s no crosstalk policy is a guideline, not a regulation, but in our experience, groups that support the no crosstalk policy have healthier dynamics, better attendance, and a longer lifespan than groups that do not.“

Úrdráttur úr ”Experiences with Crosstalk”, bls. 7.

”Most of us came into this Fellowship with a lot of self-doubts. Often what we affirmed was negative, self-destructive, and self-defeating. These invalidating thoughts represented what we had come to believe about ourselves and they were based on messages from our past, some spoken, others unspoken. Rarely were they positive or nurturing. Nonetheless, we incorporated these negative statements into our beliefs about who we were. They included things like:

• I am incompetent and incapable.
• I’m worthless and undeserving.
• I’m unimportant, even to the people who love me.
• No matter what I do, I’ll always be unattractive.
• I’ll never measure up.
• I have no right to exist.“

Úrdráttur úr ”Making Choices”, bls. 4.

Þessi bæklingur sem er upp á 72 blaðsíður inniheldur skilmerkilega lýsingu á CoDA prógraminu.

Auk þess að innihalda inngangsorðin (the Preamble), sporin 12, erfðavenjurnar 12 og loforðin 12 þá lýsir hann hinum fjórum þáttum CoDA prógramsins:

• CoDA fundaform
• Leiðbeiningar um miðlun reynslu
• Leiðbeiningar um sporavinnu
• Upplýsingar um trúnaðarmennsku

Í bæklingnum má einnig finna reynslusögur CoDA félaga.

”At CoDA meetings, we often hear people talk about other addictions: alcohol, drugs, exercise, food, gambling, spending, work, etc. During the recovery process, as we examine our behaviors, many of us discover addictions to love, sex, and relationships. Common denominators include control, intensity, drama, distorted thinking, and emotional immaturity. These manifest as addictive and/or avoidant behaviors. At the root of all of these behaviors is the absence of intimacy with ourselves, our Higher Power, and others. Through examining the patterns and characteristics of our codependence on a deeper level, we peel back more and more layers of the onion. As we explore, we gain insight. We may experience tears of pain, relief, discovery, regret, and joy. The CoDA Preamble states, “The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and loving relationships. “In order to learn about healthy relationships, we will first take a look at some aspects of unhealthy relationships.”

Úrdráttur úr “Peeling the Onion”, bls. 5.

“Addresses both sides of sponsorship. Explains why we need sponsors and identifies some of the personal benefits gained from sponsoring others.”

“The purpose of this booklet is to serve as a companion to CoDA’s Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions Workbook in support of our Tradition Three, a desire for healthy and loving relationships.”

”Most people think of tools as hammers, screwdrivers, wrenches, and other items that are used in construction. In CoDA, we use our own variety of tools to create change in our lives. Our blueprint for recovery from codependence includes following the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, attending meetings, working the program with a sponsor, trusting in a Higher Power, and incorporating recovery tools into our daily lives.

Many of us came to our first CoDA meeting because our lives were in turmoil. Situations were out of control, and we were miserable. We hoped to find information on how to fix things that weren’t working. We listened to other codependents share about how they used recovery tools in their lives, and we saw how they had grown through the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous. We wanted what they had.“

Úrdráttur úr ”Tools for Recovery”, bls. 5.

“This booklet expands our understanding of CoDA’s Twelve Traditions. Members share their experience in applying the spiritual principles of CoDA meetings and service work to improve all their relationships: in CoDA, at home, at work, and everywhere.”

“A detailed look at each of the Twelve Steps and how they apply to daily life”

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”Many of us struggle with these questions: What is codependence? Am I codependent? We want precise definitions and diagnostic criteria before we will decide. Co-Dependents Anonymous, as stated in its Eighth Tradition, is a nonprofessional Fellowship. We offer no definitions or diagnostic criteria for codependence, respectfully allowing psychiatric and psychological professionals to accomplish that task. What we do offer from our own experience are characteristic attitudes and behavior patterns that describe what our codependent histories have been like.

We believe that recovery begins an honest self-diagnosis. We came to accept our inability to maintain healthy and nurturing relationships with ourselves and others. We began to recognize that the cause lay in long-standing destructive patterns of living. We have found these patterns fall into four major categories: denial, low self-esteem, compliance, and control.”

Úrdráttur úr “Am I Codependent?”, bls. 1.

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”The four major building blocks of recovering in Co-Dependents Anonymous are meetings, working the Steps, sponsorship, and service. There are three aspects to gaining the most benefit from attending CoDA meetings: speaking, sharing, and listening.

Speakers at CoDA meetings have been invited to share their own experience, strength, and hope. Generally, people begin with a brief recounting of their childhood experiences which set them up for patterns of codependent behavior.

Most of us have been crippled by shame and fear, thus finding speaking among others, especially strangers, a very difficult task. We encourage people to begin slowly and carefully. It is the intention of every CoDA member and group not to ridicule or embarrass anyone.

We often assume that listening in a passive and easy activity, actually, to listen well requires a great deal of concentration and effort. If we are to benefit from attending meetings, we need to rely on our listening skills since rarely do we spend much or most of the time speaking or sharing.“

Úrdráttur úr “Attending Meetings”, bls. 1,2, og 3.

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”Being simple and verbal are two basic communication skills that we need to develop in recovery. We seldom think about it, but what we say to others and ourselves – and how we say it – has profound impact on our lives. Our internal and external communication habits shape our thoughts, feelings, actions, and relationships – literally everything we experience in life. Indeed, poor communication makes our lives needlessly complicated. Not speaking up for ourselves and expressing our feelings in an open, honest, and healthy manner keeps us trapped in our codependency, a disease that for many members, is a disease of silence.

This pamphlet suggests some ways that we can free ourselves from our codependent communication patterns. We can develop a new awareness of our verbal habits and learn to make healthier choices about how we communicate with others and ourselves.“

Úrdráttur úr ”Communication and Recovery”, bls. 1.

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”Whether we are aware of them or not, we all have boundaries. This pamphlet explores what boundaries are and how they support us in developing healthy and loving relationships with others and ourselves.

Boundaries are limits. Boundaries separate one person, place, or thing from another. Boundaries are verbal or physical divisions that separate our identities, responsibilities, feelings, needs, and issues from other people’s.

Throughout the recovery process, we constantly rediscover that our first responsibility is always to ourselves. Boundaries help us to clarify where our responsibilities end and where other people’s begin. By establishing healthy boundaries, we slowly learn to take care of our issues and recognize that others have the same privilege. Boundaries fall in several categories that include different aspects of our lives, such as: spiritual, social, sexual, physical, emotional, intellectual. “

Úrdráttur úr ”Establishing Boundaries in Recovery”, bls. 1.

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“An explanation of each of the Twelve Traditions and how to apply them.”

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“Discovering and embracing our inner child can help heal old hurts and pain. This pamphlet discusses ways to discover the child within and nurture the inner child.”

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“Describes program basics: Attending meetings, Sponsorship, Working the Steps, and Service.”

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“An introduction to Co-Dependents Anonymous. Features a basic list of characteristics for self-evaluation.”

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“A pamphlet aimed at clients of professionals and new members.”